- Name: Ashley
- Hometown: Alpharetta, GA
- Birthday: January 1
- Occupation: Stay at home mom
Occupation. Stay at home mom. Why can’t I write.. Occupation: everything under the sun to make sure everyone is happy? Just uttering the words “stay at home mom” can bring a variety of thoughts into people’s heads. What most don’t realize though, is that it is one of the hardest jobs there is. I am solely responsible for how my kids are brought up: what they believe in, see, hear, understand, and how they behave. It is a lot of pressure. Why are women constantly being belittled because of it?
Many years ago, most considered “The American Dream” to be an ideal living situation. Most men worked during the day, providing for their family, and the wives stayed home and tended to the children. For many different reasons, this is no longer the case. A financially straining society forces both parents to work, and place children in daycare. Dads stay at home, while the mothers work. And in other situations, both parents prefer to work just for that extra income. I realize there are many other situations in which families run. Whatever the case may be, every family runs a little bit differently, and couldn’t be without the help of everyone.
A big problem I’ve been facing recently is why men think that women who stay at home do not contribute to the household. This past weekend, Brandon and I went car shopping. We were sure that it would be his credit that affected the outcome of our purchase, or even the condition of the truck we were trading in. The actual problem was me. The financer told me that while I was doing the stay at home mom ‘thing’ and didn’t have a job..I was non-existent in the credit world, therefore I couldn’t be on the loan, and denied us a car. According to this man, I needed to have an income to contribute in my family. I found myself really down the rest of the day. Was changing diapers, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, keeping up with bills, running errands and keeping everyone happy not enough? No it wasn’t. I needed to be out in the real world, instead of sitting at home playing with my kids, as he clearly thought I did.
At the end of the day, I had to brush it off. I looked around at a clean house, happy kids, and a good meal on the table, and knew that I worked hard that day. My job is to make sure the main provider of the house, has everything he needs taken care of, and that Paige and Colt are completely cared for. Not only that, but I am saving my family hundreds of dollars per week by simply staying and caring for them myself, rather than paying someone else to.
I remind myself daily of how blessed I am, and don’t need anyone else to make me think differently.